Wednesday, January 7, 2009

Hit the Road and Don't You Come Back No More...

We ushered 2009 in rather quietly. We spent the evening with four of our closest friends. We ate too much, drank very little and played games. If you haven't played Mad Gab yet I strongly recommend that you try it soon. Laughter guaranteed! At midnight our host set off some fabulous fireworks. We aahed, oohed and all felt a sense of the excitement, the promise that the New Year holds. The old year was tarnished and had its share of defects and we were ready to replace it with this shiny new model.

My husband and I are self-employed in the world of real estate. And like many professions, when life is good, it is very good. And when life is bad, it can be very bad. We have been on this ride before and I truly hoped that we wouldn't have to venture down this road again but here we are. I will not bore you with details. That is not the purpose of this post. The purpose of this post is to tell you about an unwelcome visit into our lives, a visitor that I am kicking out - today.

My husband and I are both emotional, passionate people. When we work, we work hard. When we play, we play hard. When we dance, we dance hard. When we panic, we panic hard. So during the past few months, we have had to work to remain focused and positive. We are both believers in the power of having a positive attitude. But sometimes we lose our focus and that is when the uninvited guest sneaks in.

This particular guest is invisible yet an aura of darkness surrounds him. I refer to the guest as a male because he is strong and heavy. When he pushes down on my shoulders it can be difficult to remove him. He sits on my husband's chest, making it hard for him to breath. He sucks the oxygen out of the room. He blocks the sunshine from entering the room.

Well, guess what, Mr. Uninvited Guest ~ your visit here in my home, in my workplace, in my body , in my husband's body is over. Pack your bags! You have picked the wrong woman to mess with. I am a Taurus and stubborn is a key component of my personality. So Mr. Bully, my size seven foot is now planted firmly on your backside and I am kicking you out via the front door. Good-bye Fear!

I know what we need to do and we are going to do it. Think positive talk. Focus on positive thoughts. Act in a positive way. Be mindful of moments. Exercise. Communicate. Work hard. Surround ourselves with friends and family. Appreciate the small stuff. Keep a 'happy' journal. Laugh. Dance. Hug. Kiss. Snuggle. Watch Ellen Degeneres. I will stick my chin out and stand tall.

I have been here before and I know that we will survive. I am a fighter from way back. I also know that life could be SO much worse. I will not wallow in self-pity. I will reach out to others in need. I will make the most of each day and cherish each moment. We will survive.

And now I am going to go out into the snowstorm and make a snow angel! Enjoy.


Willow said...

Hear! Hear! Please make sure you boot him out over the Atlantic Ocean and not westward. I don't want him on my front door begging for a place to stay. :)

Have a happy day, Deb!

Dianne said...

I am self employed as well so I really identify with what you're going through

and I too have that visitor - he must have lots of cousins.

I too will do my best to kick his ass out of here!


Mean Mom said...

My husband has either chosen, or had redundancy thrust upon him, on 3 different occasions. It's tough and scary. I never feel secure, now, because I know how quickly circumstances can change. No one seems to be safe, at the moment.

I hope that your unwelcome visitor has left, never to return and I hope that 2009 is a good year for you.

I loved your last post. What a good idea. My three words would have to be 'Some unpleasant surprises', unfortunately!

Daryl said...


Husband is self employed, a video editor .. as you can imagine not many actors are spending the little cash they do have updating their reels right now and that is his bread/butter...

If you lived in FL I would ask you to sell my parents condo .. its on the market now for 3 yrs without a single nibble ..

Thanks for the visit .. come on back anytime!

pink dogwood said...

Good riddance of the uninvited guest - it all begins with the right attitude, and fortunately you have found it.

btw, you were right, I didn't want that book (tree grows in brooklyn) to end - I want to know more about what happened to Francie :(

sending some happy thought your way :)

Elaine said...

Stay strong...and boot that visitor right out into the cold where he belongs. x

The Muse said...

Bundle up if you are out playing in that snow!...

And breathe a BIG old sigh of RELIEF ! LOL

Akelamalu said...

Well good for you, that's telling 'him' straight! :)

The Muse said...

Im not sure how blogger has managed to wipe me off your bloggers follow list...but im still here!

Beverly said...

Good for you. Fear is a mighty foe, and for me, the only way to conquer it is to remember that it is really God that is in charge.

Sandi McBride said...

Deb, it's all in the attitude hon, and you've got attitude to spare. So uninvited guests need not apply for amnesty. I'm in your corner, I say you've got the devil on the run...he won't bother you long.

Retiredandcrazy said...

I believe that the unwelcome guest is what Winston Churchill used to call "The Black Dog". The sometimes visits my husband too and he is a tricky devil. He hates laughter so I would invite a few young children around they will kick him out.

Louise said...

I think a snow angel should cure most things.

Marg said...

I think we all have those univited guests come to us...I think your jobs are similiar to farming. When the sun shines we work like crazy, and then play like crazy...but during recession...we just bite our lower lips and keep going....make some changes, but have a strong stick to attitude, because we're going to see a better day.

Deb said...

Hi Willow ~ I booted him far, far into the Universe! :)

Hi Dianne ~ Kick him hard and let me know if you need help! I might be buying steel toed boots!

Hi Mean MOM ~ I can relate! Remember to breath and know that you are not alone. :)

Hi Daryl ~ I so wish I could help you. We are all in this together. Sending hugs to you. :)

Hi Pink Dogwood ~ I appreciate your happy thoughts.

Hi Elaine ~ Thanks. :)

Hi Muse ~ I am breathing! And that's a good thing. :)

Hi Ake ~ I just hope he listened!

Hi Beverly ~ I believe! :)

Hi Sandi ~ I have a feeling you and I might be cut from the same cloth! :)

Hi Retired and Crazy ~ I agree! And I can't wait for my daughter to give birth to the twins! I am so ready to be a grammie!

Hi Louise ~ Ah, the magic of snow angels!

Hi Marg ~ You are SO right! Guess I shouldn't have played so much but it WAS fun. And now I must put my nose to the grindstone. :)

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